If it leaves a trail of abused victims, it isn’t Jesus. In this episode of The Grace Cafe Podcast, we had an informal conversation about the different types of abuse in the church and the impact the #ChurchToo movement is having on exposing abuse. Victims of abuse are finding their voice and speaking up about abuse that has been going on for years, which the church has been working hard to spin, cover up, and keep quiet. It is our opinion that the top-down authority structures found in most institutional church settings is a huge part of the problem that feeds attempted cover-ups of abuse within its walls while silencing its victims through shame, threats, and intimidation.
Join our conversation as we talk through #ChurchToo.
Welcome to episode 16 of the Grace Cafe Podcast. We’re reaching back into the archives and grabbing one of our old episodes from our Known & Loved Podcast. That episode was entitled Don’t Be Who They Made You and originally aired in March of 2017. Our friends Joe and Deirdre joined us on this episode as we talk about a favorite line in the movie Logan. That line is the title of this episode: Don’t Be Who They Made You.
The inspiration for this episode came shortly after seeing the movie Logan in March of 2017, when we came across a blog post called, Is Reformed Evangelicalism a Place for the Traumatized? In it, the author recounts his seminary experience as it relates to the line from Logan, “Don’t Be Who They Made You.” For your convenience, the link is below.
We’ve been looking forward to sharing this episode with you, and the day has finally arrived. Pull up your favorite chair and your favorite beverage and join us as we talk with Mike Kapler and Joel Brueseke from the Growing in Grace podcast. Our casual conversation took us to places like these:
Christ in us and us in Christ
The once-for-all forgiveness of sin
Our true identity
Confession of sin
Moralism, legalism, and mental illness that results from law-based living
The futility of “do more, try harder” religion
The Old Covenant is obsolete. Jesus is the mediator of a better covenant, but we mix the two together
I could go on, but listening is more fun! Links for this episode:
Welcome to episode 14 of The Grace Cafe Podcast. Let’s talk about some of the things religion and tribal doctrine steal from us as well as some of the misconceptions we’re left with that give us an incorrect view of God and what he thinks of us. A few of the things that came to mind for us as we talked were:
Accountability and Judgement
The Holy Spirit as a Comforter
Pull up your favorite chair and grab your favorite beverage as we have a conversation about the things tribal doctrine steals from us and the struggle to take it back.
Welcome to episode 13 of The Grace Cafe Podcast. We’re calling this episode The Consequences of Gospel Amnesia. We humans are so accustomed to working that we find it hard to rest. This is especially true in western culture where hard work is considered the norm and is accompanied by rewards and resting can be equated with laziness and considered a weakness. But the gospel is all about rest. It’s all about relaxing into God via the finished work of Jesus on the cross.
When our zeal for accomplishment and rewards via hard work spills over into our spiritual lives, the result is gospel amnesia. But what happens when we forget the “it is finished” message of the gospel and instead find ourselves fixing our eyes on things smaller than Jesus? What happens when we start to think our works draw us deeper in into the Father’s affection? Let’s talk about it.
Welcome to episode 12 of the Grace Cafe Podcast. Let’s talk about sameness, conformity, community, and building our lives on a better foundation. Religion equates sameness with community. It tells us that if we’re all the same, believing all the same things, and acting out life in all the same ways, life is good. But when we start to think independently of that reasoning and the Holy Spirit starts us on a different journey, causing us to re-think what we used to assume was correct, we become a threat to those who equate sameness with community and we find ourselves outside of the group we used to be a part of.
Genuine community requires honest conversation in an environment that is safe to express differences and changes in our own journey, while being allowed to be ourselves and openly question what was once assumed.
Other topics we explore in this episode:
The forgiveness of sin
Am I simultaneously justified and a sinner? Is there a part of me that is still in sin? Who am I in Jesus?
Welcome to episode 11 of the Grace Cafe Podcast! In the previous episode, we re-aired our conversation from January, 2016 with Allison Stanley. We called it Living in the Wait because her life seemed to be on hold as she waited to see where things were going to land in the midst of a divorce. This episode is our follow-up conversation with Allison that we recorded yesterday, Feb 6, 2018.
Far from emerging as a Christian superhero following a trial, what most often happens is that in his love, the Father brings us into a quiet place – a normal place where we just get to slow down life’s pace and know him better, experiencing his kindness. We think you’ll be encouraged by our conversation with Allison and we explore her story of moving from living in the wait to living in the quiet.
Welcome to episode 10 of the Grace Cafe Podcast. We’ve crossed over into double digits with this episode. Yay! This episode is one from our old Chief Sinner Podcast from January, 2016 where we had a conversation with a good friend of ours, Allison Stanley. One of the reasons we’re reposting it here is because we’ll be doing a follow-up conversation with Allison that will be posted next week. This episode will give you some background and context for the new one.
When we talked with Allison two years ago, she was in the middle of a divorce and she talked openly and frankly with us about her experiences and what was going on inside and with others around her. You’ll hear her describe the uncertainty of that time and what hope meant in the context of that uncertainty. She described it as living in the wait. We think you’ll be encouraged by what you hear and if you’re in similar circumstances, know you’re not alone.